Dynamics of serious guy/girl relationships - I

I have been playing this over and over for the last hour or so. ‘Haunting’ is the word everyone is using to describe it. I can’t think of anything that describes it better.  *sigh*

Disclaimer: This proved to be extremely hard to write. I hope it isn’t too hard to sit through. There’s even a Part II coming up. 

Okay. Here goes..

Success & an internal sense of accomplishment ** are the basic tenets around which any ‘fully lived’ life is built & lived around.

My basic theory is that Guy-Girl relationships, especially as ‘mates’ ^^ must be looked at - with the above axiom in mind for a larger perspective. I think that such relationships, prima facie, are centered around the following concepts:

1. They represent an ‘Exclusive’ support system – a level or two above what the parental support system represents.
2. They bring a certain sense of purpose, seriousness to what work one does  ( One develops a sense of responsibility, protective attitude, trying hard to impress – we’re genetically predisposed to behave & act this way i think – however primeval it sounds, it is overall a powerful thing to reckon with)
3. (1) and (2) will most probably lead to more success at work – that translates into long term, um, material prosperity, more success, joie de vivre..etc. Well, success & good things breed more success and good things. No ?

Now parents, i think, push people into ‘serious’ Guy-girl relationships quite obviously because of (1) and (2), and the related stability it will bring to the guy/girl in question***, and to their own lives (Obviously)

The disagreement here, at least in my context, appears to be the fact that i think that one must clear, what i call, a ‘Level One : success + Internal Sense of accomplishment’ score – BEFORE seeking these serious guy-girl type support systems etc. – one will probably have a better developed internal compass, be more (shall we say?) desirable and all in all have a better shot at happily ever after.

This essentially boils down to a bit of a tug-of-war between parents (who think that the guy/girl badly needs the ‘support system’ right now) and the guy/girl (who probably thinks that he/her is not really ready for OR does not presently need OR isn't really sure about what type of support system he/she really needs, in the long term)

Explanatory Notes:

** Both are subjective things – usually varying from person to person – involving important fundae like internal/external frames of reference, peer recognition, material success etc. Best discussed another time. No ?

^^ Please note that i artfully avoided using the other ‘M’ word throughout. Makes this more credible :P 

*** There are people, Ratan Tata, for example who have shown that (1) and (2) are possible even without a guy-girl relationship based system. They almost invariably are exceptions though.